Lives that often appear in such a situation: They do very normal, they are still firing for no reason at all, which is often said the " Inexplicable angry." What causes this situation? Encountered such a situation should be handled?
First, psychological analysis
Temper too, love temper, in fact, is a mentality of hostility and anger. When people's subjective desire and objective reality that runs counter to when such a negative emotional response. Psychology studies show that bad temper, often angry, not only enhanced when induced heart disease and increases the possibility of suffering from other diseases. Therefore in order to ensure their physical and mental health, must learn to control their own to overcome the love a bad temper.
This is how the case? Specific reasons:
First of all, do not accept themselves as they tend to suppress their emotions too much, they thought that doing so will be able to avoid being angry. But in fact just the opposite, they are emotionally unable to suppress the more suppressed the more, the more attention the more attention has not place, they think their attention was not enough, further depression and attention, and then re-ignition could not suppress, the formation of such a vicious circle. This vicious cycle because they treat the concept of emotional problems alone, not to divert emotional, but emotional congestion, resulting in the accumulation of emotional, fire has become more and more bigger.
Secondly, is that they should not be angry, that is, they do not accept the common humanity in all its offensive, consider offensive are the devil, must be eradicated in such a way of thinking happens to be anti the. Because only accepted the offensive, permit themselves in their daily life due to attack, we will not save the mood to save when he can no longer throw a tantrum. According to Mr Lee's approach, the result is not the elimination of offensive, but allow an attacker to save energy, and emotions into a vicious, but really so offensive to become the devil.
Third, is likely to feel they often were not taken seriously, not to be concerned about the neglect, have been violated, some fine words of others and act, they become very sensitive. They are first of all the above emotions are only aroused their anger, not without that a quick fix. In fact, a lot of others are unintentional, not to threaten or violate him, but they are interpreted as their inner meaning, so fat lot of temper, in others it seems is this: "Sometimes nothing major, he will fly into a rage . "
Fourth, with the formation of character, as a general rule with them grew up in a family environment has a great relationship. If the family environment is to ignore them, deny them, they do not care, that they will save a great anger, the anger to become their future adult relationships in a big problem.
Second, the solution
1, awareness of control
When angrily about the mood soon broke out, to use to control their own awareness, to remind ourselves to be rational, but also self-implied: "Do not get angry, be angry physical injury," conservation has generally can control. Recognition of self, the courage to admit their love of temper, in order to achieve other people's help. If the people around them often to remind, supervise you, then your goal will be reached. Appropriate response, when the case of grievances, any normal person will be furious, but no matter what happened, should be calm, calm and open mind to let him understand the other side of the borrowed words and deeds, rather than rapid to make an inappropriate response. Thereby depriving the other party the opportunity to admit error. Empathy, everything to Care for the sake of discussion, if any, you can stand each other's point of view, then, very often, you will have no reason to vent the party in others, their own natural gas will disappear. Tolerant of people do not haggle over every ounce not to retaliate against the citizens, when you learn to tolerance, the love is their own temper problems disappeared. Now in real life, some people often said: "I used to get angry, since the heart attack I had realized, Fat lot of fire worth nothing." Please do not wait until the risk of heart disease do not only turn to get angry in order to overcome the Jinfa a bad temper, this from today begin.
2, self-motivation
A. Self-encourage law, with certain philosophical or some famous comfort themselves, to encourage themselves with the suffering, the struggle against adversity. See Me, they will take your emotions better.
B. Language-conditioning method, language is a powerful tool for emotional impact. Such as when you are sad, recite funny, humorous verse, you can eliminate the sadness. Use "system anger," "tolerance," "calm" and other self-reminders, self-command, self-implied, but also can regulate their emotions.
C. Law on environmental constraints, the environment has important emotional and constraining the role of regulator. Emotional suppression when to walk outside, can play a regulating role. Unpleasant feeling when doing the Casino Games will Elimination of gloom relief of boredom. Emotional concerns, the best approach is to go take a look at funny movies.
D. Method attention, please confine your attention from the negative side to the positive and meaningful aspects of the past will suddenly see the light mood. For example, when you encounter when distressed, it may be behind or to find the bright side, it will eliminate the distress.
E. Energy vent law, bad feelings can, through appropriate channels and vent Elimination. Negative emotions can not be adequately Elimination, easily affect physical and mental health. Therefore, the cry should be a cry; upset when looking for good friends; dissatisfaction grievances, anger, due out the outlet; depression can sing cheerful songs.
3, behavior regulation
(1) adverse emotional energy vent out. For example, when you, when angry, it is better to quickly go to other places, or with fists hammering the walls, or to find jobs they do a thousand, or running around, so we will be able to fury inspired by the energy released, so calm down, or excessive pain you may wish to cry a. Laughter is also the release of accumulated energy, adjust the body balanced way.
(2) adverse emotional digestion sensibly. First of all, must admit the existence of adverse sentiment; Second, admit the existence of a bad mood after, it is necessary to analyze the reasons for this sentiment, and will find out why the anguish, sorrow or anger, this can help us understand their distress, sad, angry things, it really can be annoying, as bad news, can anger, sometimes in fact not the case, then the mood will be bad digestion; Finally, sometimes there can be annoying, as bad news can be the reasons for anger, then, should seek appropriate ways and means to resolve it. For example, if you do not grasp because before the exam, the test can be good, feel uneasy, you should be positive to focus shifted to strengthening the study table, focus on a good review, to mitigate their concerns.
(3) bad mood forgotten or transfer out. Under normal circumstances, their emotions can have a strong stimulating things, usually with their own personal interests have a great relationship, we should soon be forgotten, it is very difficult. However, the transfer can be active, that is, to make their own thoughts shifted to the more meaningful aspects of, or take the initiative to help others, or find a good friend to talk, or to find a useful book to read. To find spiritual sustenance in their own thoughts, they should not let themselves in a spiritual emptiness, psychological open state. Where this results in an unpleasant mood arises quickly transferred him to focus the Agency's people, and bad feelings left in his possession a short time.
4, food regulation
Over the years research has shown that certain foods can affect the brain of certain chemical substances produced, thus improving people's feelings.
Whole wheat bread in food package histidine can enhance brain 5-HT levels, to create the feeling of pleasure. And whole wheat bread can help the absorption of tryptophan. Eating protein-rich meat, cheese and other food before taking a few tablets whole wheat bread, you can guarantee that tryptophan can enter the brain, and not squeezed out by other amino acids.
Coffee morning cup of coffee there are refreshing Xingnaojing role. Caffeine can temporarily and slightly elevated blood pressure and makes us feel sleepy blocking the transmission of chemical substances. However, drinking 3 cups or more a day might actually lead to irritability, irritability.
Water a day should they drink enough water to prevent feel dispirited because of water shortage. Can not use coffee or other drinks containing coffee substitute.
Banana tension and a lack of magnesium is closely related to, so busy living in the recipe should be supplemented with magnesium-rich food such as bananas.
Orange and grape 150 mg daily doses of vitamin C (about 2 oranges) allow tension, irritability, depression, bad mood improved.
Chili pepper with capsaicin can stimulate nerve endings mouth, so that the brain releases endorphins. This substance can cause short-term enjoyment.
Miss Xu Duo chocolate, especially when they are pre-menstrual syndrome or undesirable emotional distress, especially to eat chocolate. Because chocolate has a stabilization role.
Beef completely in order to lower cholesterol Can not eat beef, often caused by iron deficiency, people feel fatigue, feelings of depression. Tests showed that eating 3 ounces of beef per day (a small hamburger) than completely vegetarian may absorb 50 percent more iron.
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